In this day and age of instant gratification, we are used to getting everything we want at a moment’s notice.
You want groceries? Order them on Amazon. You want to talk to your friend in another country? Facetime. The internet? Remember dial-up, people…
When was the last time you practiced patience? When it comes to your errands, your kids, or your customers?
Now, if you know me or you’ve read my other blogs, you know I don’t just sit around and wait for success to happen. I’m out there, going the distance, doing the hard work and fighting for my dreams.
When I say be patient – I don’t mean just sit there and wait.
I love Disney, but this is not a damsel-in-distress-who-waits-in-the-tower kind of story.
This is the tale of the damsel-who-knows-how-and-when-to-fight, and when not to fight.
Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly. (Proverbs 14:29)
Think about this verse and what it means for you.
Patience helps me think about things with a clear mind that isn’t clouded with of-the-moment emotions or judgments. It also lets me put time and energy into something that will pay off in the long run.
When I tell my story, it didn’t happen overnight.
It was an amazing change, and I’m so glad that my story has a happy ending, but I didn’t just meet a prince and poof! my life is the better for it.
No – my husband and I worked hard every day, connected with others, did our research, shadowed other promoters, worked on our marketing, built a following with social media, put in the TIME – all because we tried every avenue and made every effort to do our best.
We are still doing all of that – and learning new things every day!
We have put in all this work BECAUSE we knew some day it would pay off.
Being patient means knowing that our goals are within reach – it just takes time and discipline.
Think about buying your first house. Is that a goal for you? Have you already bought a house?
When you buy your first home, you and your family have to put your finances in order, meet with a mortgage broker, and meet with a realtor to see if you’re even in a position to buy a house yet.
These are your first steps. You might be ready, or you might need to make changes in your life and career to make it happen.
If you don’t have the patience, you might say, “Umm, that’ll take too long. That’s too much work. Never gonna happen.”
If you’re not patient, you might give up. Trust me, you don’t want to give up! On your business or yourself.
You want to get that house and you’ll do whatever it takes – no matter how long it takes. You’ve got the patience!
Another way to think about patience is in the short-term. Having patience when your kids are screaming, or when you’re stuck in traffic, or when you can’t believe how long your food is taking.
It’s all about willpower y’all! Think about how you’re spending your energy and what’s important to you. I’m talking about your personal values and interests.
Is it worth your time and energy to get upset, angry or overwhelmed? What exactly is so pressing or so urgent that you have to have that thing right then at that very second?
I mean really think about it.
I try to use that time productively, to think about how to communicate better with my kids, or maybe I spend some time planning what I’ll make for dinner or what I’ll talk about in that meeting I have coming up.
When I’m sitting at that restaurant with my family, I actually get more time to talk with them when we wait for our food.
The more I think about it, the more I realize it’s a matter of perspective. Spinning a positive light on your real-world situations will allow you to be more grateful, more understanding, just plain positive, and more patient.
How are you practicing patience in your life? Comment below!